Havening Session Testimonials
1:1 Coaching Client Testimonials
Why did you initially decide you needed a coach?
I had recently been promoted in to a role much bigger and senior than I had ever been in before and was beginning to notice that my resilience - even with the smallest of inconveniences - was minimal (if not non-existent!). I was putting extreme pressure on myself, and didn’t realise that that I was unhappy. I had also gone through a lot of change - moving in with my very new boyfriend, cutting friends out that weren’t good for me, and going through some family issues. I was numbing every single night with alcohol, eating bad foods that made me feel good, not exercising like I usually love to do, and working long hours. I was putting on weight, was feeling angry and sad all the time, and kept thinking that I needed some help to provide me with tools and techniques to lead a happier and healthier life. Life is not supposed to be lived the way I did for well over a year!
How you felt about yourself at the start of you 6 weeks?
Reflecting on how I felt at the start… I didn’t realise just how unhappy I was!
I couldn’t get out of bed. I was drinking every night to curb my anxiety and stop my brain. I was crying A LOT. I was sick… so sick. I have endometriosis and I was having flare ups ALL.THE.TIME. I ended up in hospital right before beginning with Elle, and they couldn’t figure out what was wrong. All tests were coming back with a clean bill of health. I was adamant that they had mixed my results up with someone else’s. I was eating junk food - ALL THE TIME. I constantly beat myself up about how I looked. I was spending so much time in bed. I was complaining ALL THE TIME. My skin was breaking out constantly. I was so anxious. I never stopped to think about what was good. And I really didn’t think that I was enough as I am, or worthy of anything good.
How has this changed after working with Elle?
FAR OUT! As my boyfriend says “you are so chilled and so relaxed now! You have completely changed - for the better!”
Yes, I still get anxious. However I have the tools and techniques now to realise when I am slipping in to these patterns and to stop myself.
I LOVE MYSELF!! And I don’t find that hard to write. I don’t look in the mirror and pick out all of the negative things about myself. Actually, after having my first face to face session with Elle when she came to Sydney to see me… when I looked in the mirror, I saw a completely different person. I am more present for Dean, and our relationship has never been better. He always showed me love and affection, and I didn’t realised that I wasn’t showing it back… now I do!
I am more calm and level headed at work. I am so much more positive, and clear headed. I have so much more energy… and do not numb anymore!! I’ve completely stopped drinking, except for when I go out for friends birthdays and other celebrations.
What emotions were you experiencing on a daily basis before working with Elle and how have they changed?
Anxiety, sadness, anger, stress… all were daily experiences.
I still feel stressed and anxious regularly, however can easily bring myself back in to the room rather than letting these emotions consume me and take over.
I am no longer sad, or angry. My partner has also noticed that I am able to compartmentalise negative situations and let them go… I used to hang on to those things FOREVER!!
What Behaviours have changed in the last 6 weeks?
I practice gratitude!! I never did this before, and actually thought it was silly… Now, I notice when I have forgotten to journal for a couple of days… my anxiety definitely peaks!
I listen to my personal recordings that Elle has made for me daily, and/or practice meditation - and I do this right before my gym classes in the morning. It is amazing how grounded I am afterwards - and how I can reflect on the stress/anxiety I woke up and travelled to the gym with.
My behaviours at work have shifted completely. I am able to take difficult situations in my stride… and got through presenting to 600 people with relative ease (when I would have previously had a nervous breakdown over presenting in front of 20!)
I am able to compartmentalise negative situations, and let them go.
I listen to myself and what my body is telling me. If I need to rest… I rest!!! I don’t beat myself up and give myself the negative talk about not going to the gym or feel guilty about not cleaning…and you know what?? Despite a virus that I got… I haven’t got sick! And I haven’t
I don’t drink except for the odd celebration. I am feeding my body with nourishing, healthy foods… and I want to!
How were your Havening experiences/ sessions?
Going back to situations that I have held on to for many years, that have impacted my life (without me even realising) was confronting - not going to lie… But wow… havening has changed my life. I have let go of so many things in such a short period of time, and I am living such a free life! I can’t even explain it, and when I try it just doesn’t give havening justice… but I am so grateful.
It helps me at work when I’m nervous and about to face in to a difficult situation, it helps me sleep, and it has helped me to let go. Everyone needs havening!
What would you say to someone who was thinking about working with Elle?
Elle has changed my life. Completely changed my life, and I can’t thank her enough. If you are thinking about working with her, don’t question it anymore - just do it. You won’t regret it. Reflecting on the person who I was 6 weeks ago, to the person I am now… it’s like chalk and cheese. She has your back, one million percent, and is one of the biggest supporters I have ever met. What Elle does is so powerful, and I don’t think she will ever truly understand how highly I regard her for the work she does and the beautiful person she is. I completely trust Elle and what she is sharing with the world, she was able to bring out the things that were holding me back (that I didn’t even realise were holding me back!), and help me to let go so that I can look forward and live a positive, free life.